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There is a buzz developing around the systemic sexism that echoes the patriarchal delusion of male superiority. It is ironic how the same people posted at the top of the social hierarchy are the ones lost in the rose-coloured fog of dissonance. They see the inequity…backwards, of course, clinging to unearned authority over what’s “right.” Tensions build from every angle, and blame is cast on misandry as the antagonist. This mordant perspective, by hard-heartedly dismissing the lived experience of everyone else, fuels the very manifestation of antipathy towards cis men that it claims to oppose. It minimizes the fundamentally trauma-informed byproduct growing from the epicenter of the impossible demands of patriarchal social construction. Still, lack of accountability and the denial of science lead society down a darkening path of destruction—and the centuries-old self-deception peals, loud and oppressive. Society’s inescapable patriarchal structures inflict profound damage and enable severe, intersectional oppression against women and gender-nonconforming individuals—realities often dismissed by a misguided focus on misandry, underscoring an urgent need for accountability and genuine societal transformation. People talk about the patriarchy like it signals male superiority, when in reality none of them can achieve, let alone define how it actually impacts their daily lives. They don’t name it, of course, but it bleeds into every conversation, every law, every social shift. An imaginary “bargain” places heteronormative men at the top, while also stripping them of every shred of their humanity. These damaging patriarchal values are the sutures that secure the tears in the fabric of society, depriving men of their chance of emotional and psychological well-being; effectively equating masculinity to some biological imperative that cannot be challenged, disallowing vulnerability and therefore dissolving any chance of profound social connectedness. Any sign of emotionality or neurodivergence is met with despotic intolerance, teaching boys how not to be girls without teaching them how to be men. Meanwhile, male suicide rates continue to rise, indicating that emotional suppression and stoicism are not without grave consequence. Perceived inadequacies breathe life into insecurities that torment or manifest into a desperate need for control and validation. Like poison, society effectively dissolves the male capacity for accountability, driving a wedge through every attempt at intimacy.
Society takes no issue with vilifying mothers, wives, and daughters, demonizing the gay and gender-nonconforming, for the anguish felt by all. Sexual victimization is too common and painfully glossed over and dismissed, but that is an overtly enacted form of violence. Overt, and far too widely accepted or at least dismissed. The too-common colloquialism “boys will be boys,” for example, undermines the torment and trauma that they commit. Their pattern of behaviour escalates from schoolyard pranks and teasing to breaking their tv because they lost at their videogame—or punching holes in the drywall because their girlfriend said something they didn’t like. On a social stage, it’s morphed into a sinister dictatorship where female bodies are objectified to horrific extent. The most recent evolution of patriarchy looks like a woman being kept on life support (against hers and her family’s wishes) for the sole purpose of incubating a fetus. The state of Georgia, of course, justified their decision using their 6-week abortion ban—Adriana Smith was 9 weeks pregnant at the time of brain death. On Friday June 13th, 2025, the state of Georgia harvested that fetus at 24 weeks gestation—because Adriana’s body started decomposing. The baby boy, Chance, at 1lb 13oz, was transferred to another incubator in the NICU. Adriana’s Black body was finally permitted to rest that same weekend, and yet another Black family was left to carry the weight of the emotional and financial burden. The lack of outrage and minimal media coverage softened their reality to make it more palatable for White American consumption—more digestible. Misogynoir perpetuated by White supremacy (intentional and unconscious) continuously built on a well-established patriarchal foundation. There is a common misconception that misandry is an equal opposition to misogyny, which is not only short-sighted, but also dismissive of historical fact and experience. Literally defined as contempt for or prejudice against men, misandry is often seen as hatred for the sake of hating, detached from any cause or fault of men. Yet, the sad, painful reality is that misandry is a direct and reactive response to the very real and pervasive harm, violence, and oppression perpetrated by men. It is not irrational hatred; it is not unfounded or baseless revolt. It’s deeply rooted in institutional attacks on those who do not match the patriarchal vision of a Divine Masculine. The history of women’s rights is well-documented and continues to be up for debate on a grand scale. One pervasive example is found in the fight for autonomy and reproductive freedom. The 1800s brought us the illegalization of both abortion and contraceptives, as the male-dominated medical field competed with midwifery and purity culture found revival. However, the 1900s ushered in a powerful resistance and hard-won successes, with women and femmes reclaiming those fundamental rights and striving for equitable equality. Today, we see a revival of feminine subjugation with the mask of virtue and protective measure. During a recent debate a similar point was presented—(01:06:36)—acknowledging that “toxic femininity” may exist…but as a response to the oppression wielded by toxic masculinity. It's difficult to miss the validity of the statement, knowing the point is not only frequently missed but that the reality is largely denied. So blatantly denied, that men (like Charlie Kirk) have platforms that only amplify their crooked and misguided perspectives. They overspeak, after asking disingenuous questions; they deride when their talking points are disproven, and they demean anything that threatens their sense of unearned superiority. None of this should come as a shock, and while the societal denial is thick, a quick search will provide countless resources of validity. Centuries of patriarchal illusion have inflicted irrefutable damage so profoundly that the urgency of the need for accountability and structural transformation only escalates. Today, we have men who claim to be logical, unemotional beings while they cling to apathy in the face of overwhelming anger. They beat their chest as a means of intimidation, or they take what they want without consideration of consent. We have women and femmes—Trans men and gender non-conforming individuals—begging for equity, taking to the streets to raise awareness, still fighting for the right to exist as comes naturally. All the while, men continue to structurally evade emotionality so intensely that they take their own lives—the lives of others—in epic proportion. Society teaches boys how not to be girls and enforces gender roles/norms through stereotypes, without consideration of emotional need. Men are painted as providers and protectors, while society ignores that women can provide for all material need while it negates that men are who we all need protection from. Still, somehow, the fault falls on the feminine. As tensions rise and the hatred of men grows, so too does the elusion of accountability and leadership boasted by men. They cry misandry, while the rest of us beg for equitable change. We need to stop teaching our daughters misnomers such as boys who tease them have a crush on them and start teaching our sons how to express how they feel without inflicting some level of emotional distress on others. This one trope alone objectifies the feminine while simultaneously dehumanizing the masculine, stripping them both down to external ideals and dismissing both their identity and their lived experience.
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